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LOVE IS THE ULTIMATE CHALLENGE OF LIFE
Learn to understand its dynamics and to navigate its challenges
Invest in exploring what touches your life so deeply
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When we married, 15 happy years ago, we chose a curious motto - a sentence that I, Thomas, had picked up in a French film and that had stayed with me for more than 35 years, as an unspoken hope and knowledge. In a crucial scene Garance, a radiant woman, says to her melancholic lover: "L’amour, c'est si simple" - "Love is so simple". Is it? Maybe in essence it is, but simple does not mean easy. When we met, we both had experienced how difficult and complicated love can be, and yet, it became evident that loving is indeed very simple. We had come to a point where we understood the simple nature of love: love is not about making each other happy; the essence of love is to enjoy each other's presence. And that is exactly what is so difficult, because enjoying each other's presence means enjoying whatever moves in my partner and in myself - including feelings that are commonly considered as 'negative'. It requires that we prefer truth and realness to comfort and happiness - in order to get to what finally matters and nourishes most: deep connection. Enjoying each other's presence also needs the awareness that the present moment has different layers: sometimes past experiences kick in and need loving attention as such - and there is always a glimpse of future possibilities of |
what my partner could be like. So what is needed, is clear sight - but our sight often gets blurred by our mind. It comes up with pictures and ideas about who my partner is and should be, and about who I am and should be. In addition, our mind is attached to prefab concepts about what love is and should be - whereas love begins, where we stop thinking and knowing and open up to what is really happening. Can you love being surprised by your partner, by yourself, and by what is about to happen between you? You can never know how your partner will enter the room; every day you can perceive subtle or greater shifts in what he or she is doing and saying. It is this radical curiosity that keeps a relationship alive. Monogamy is only boring, when partners get caught up in patterns. In reality, though, we are never with the very same partner. When we are willing to explore each other moment by moment, a magical space opens where we can find our true joy, where the past can be healed, and the future can manifest. In this way, we love each other into aliveness and our full potential. The essence is simple - and if you really understand it, practice becomes more and more easy. We would be happy to share our experience to guide you during the first steps into it. |
LEARN HOW TO FIND YOUR PARTNER
UNDERSTAND HOW TO STAY IN LOVE TOGETHER
WE ARE GLAD TO SHARE WHAT WE HAVE FOUND OUT
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